One approach to confronting a fear is to deliberately put yourself in the real-life situation that scares you.  The more you avoid something the “scarier” it becomes.  For example, if you have a fear of flying, you can find a course to help you to overcome this fear. This course lets you challenge your underlying beliefs and to attempt to change them from “I can’t do this” to “I can give this a try”.

According to several researchers ((Gelder, 1976; MacLean and Graff, 1970;Olson, 1975)  this method of confrontation can be effective because of the speed of results.  It also can greatly increase self-esteem and confidence during and after the activity.  These benefits, however, are conditional, providing that the intensity and duration of the activity are within the limits you can handle. If the situation is not controlled effectively the fear overwhelms you and you give up.  The underlying fear becomes stronger and you lose your self-confidence.

Another risk is that if you attempt to confront the fear, but don’t actually get to the point of doing so then the fear will be stronger.  Fire-walking can be risky because real dangers exist if the temperature of the fire is not controlled properly.

There are, however, many benefits to be gained by just feeling the fear and doing it anywaySusan Jeffers, author of the bestselling book, describes the benefits as increased confidence, stronger self-belief and feeling you will win no matter what happens. Once you take away the fear of failure or loss and focus on gaining from any experience the entire experience takes on a new look.